As a parent, do you ever wonder what your kids think of you? Do you wonder if they notice the little things you do for them? Do you wonder if they will remember you as a good parent? Do you wonder what their childhood memories will be? Well, I do….
Since my kids are all still at home it is really hard to know what they are thinking about good old mom (unless they are mad at me…then it is easy to know what they think of me). I could just ask them, but I don't know that I would get a totally honest perspective.
There are certain things that I do as a mom that I hope my kids will look back on fondly. I know that my brother and I love to tease our mom about things we remember vividly from our childhood memories! I am sure those aren't the things she hoped we would remember!! 🙂 I remember the good things too…they just aren't as much fun to bring up!
I was able to catch a little glimpse of how my oldest daughter sees me as a mom. I was really surprised when earlier this year she came home and told me that she had written a paper about me for a school project. The students were supposed to write a paper about their hero….to say that I was blown away that she choose me as her hero was an understatement. There is a chance that she picked me to butter me up for something…but she really isn't like that and she knows it wouldn't work anyway! 🙂
She gave me the paper when she was done with it. It was really touching to read…yes…I cried a little bit! There were a few parts that showed me that she may actually look back fondly on some of the things I do as a mom.
Here are a few snippets from the paper….
There are these little things about my mom that I love, like how she is always singing to wake us up and making these little songs for when we actually wake up. I'm not a morning person but she is, so even though it always annoys me because I'm tired, I love that about her.
My mom also does a lot of scrapbooking, which means she takes a lot of pictures. She has about five shelves just full of her scrapbooks, which I never really seem to notice, but once in a while I do notice them and I will just spend hours looking at each page, each picture and each memory.
My mom loves to find the little things about life, like seeing an old farmhouse out in the country or old land marks. None of us kids like to stop at those places, but my mom could spend all day just looking at them, she sees the beauty in every little thing that God created.
I think the last thing I'll tell you about is how she's such an amazing mother. My mom has four kids and we're definitely a hand full, so it's a good thing we have my dad, but she's the one that is usually home with us, who knows exactly what is going on. One word that I think really helps describe her is “understanding”. She may not know how I am feeling but she definitely try's.
I will definitely be able to say I had am amazing childhood when I'm an adult and I owe a big thanks to my mom for helping me be able to say that.
I was really pleased to see that my spontaneous singing is something that will be looked back on fondly…no matter how annoying it is to the kids now! That is something that I love to do…I make up songs…basically EVERYDAY. Yes…I am not kidding…I sing silly made up songs everyday. These songs may be about how stinky a diaper is…to how much I love them…whatever inspires me. I was hoping that my kids would look back on this habit of mine and laugh someday…and reading this paper gives me hope that they will!
I love to record the memories of our family in scrapbooks. I know the kids aren't usually too keen on me going away for a few days to scrapbook…but I have always hoped that someday they will be so grateful for these books of memories. It looks like they will be.
I want my kids to remember that I tried to be a good mom. My daughter said above…she may not know how I am feeling, but she definitely tries…. I do try really hard. I fail a lot…but I hope they will remember the trying!!
I hope all my children remember their childhoods fondly. I know that I have the best memories of my childhood and I know that I have my parents to thank for that. It looks like at least one of my kids is heading in that same direction!
I thought I would end this little post on a funny note…here are two more snippets from the paper that I thought were pretty comical! (my daughter probably didn't realize the “digs” she was making at me…hee,hee,hee)
People have always told me that I look like my mom, which I don't think is a problem at all, even though most people wouldn't say it, I think my mom is beautiful. WOW…I guess most people don't think I am at all attractive! 🙂
I'd definitely say that my mom is the life of the party, even if she goes to bed at 9:30. I will own it…I like to go to bed early…I just thought this sentence was hilarious…I don't think anyone would call me the life of any party! 🙂
I guess to sum it all up…maybe the effort we are putting in to being good mothers and fathers is worth it! Maybe just maybe if we keep at it…our kids will look back on their childhood memories with happy thoughts and will know it was because of all our hard work and love!
What childhood memories do you hope your children look back on fondly?