Ok, I know the title, Love is Christmas Music and Nuts is kind of…nuts :), but I think it will make sense by the end of this post! As we approach Valentine's Day I wanted to focus a little bit on LOVE.
I would guess that most couples who have been married a while and have kids probably aren't living a whirlwind romance most days. Yes, you love each other….but sometimes it comes out in unusual ways! If you aren't looking you may even miss it! I am sharing this little story to remind you that love can show up in many forms! Love usually isn't like we see on the big screen!
I can hear someone tell me they love me all day, but I know that they love me when I see it in action. I really do believe that love is an action word. I know when I look at the Bible as a reference for love…I see the action of God's love all over the place!
Now I won't sit here and pretend that I am the most loving wife that ever walked the earth…I am not. I fail miserably at being a loving wife. BUT…I try…and I think that should gain me some points! 🙂 (right honey?)
So here are two little stories of love in action in my marriage.
During the Christmas season we had taken the kids out to look at Christmas lights. I turned the radio on to Christmas music…I got immediate negative feedback from some of the kids…they wanted me to turn the station. My husband who STRONGLY DISLIKES Christmas music (I know, what a Grinch :))….jumped in and said we were going to listen to it. One of my kids piped up and asked my husband, “Why do we have to listen to it? You don't even like Christmas music?” Here is where the LOVE IN ACTION really came through…my husband said the sweetest thing…he said, “Your mom loves Christmas music…and I love her…so we are going to listen to it!” It actually brought tears to my eyes…it was just so sweet and unselfish. It was a great example for our kids too. We can CHOOSE to do something we don't want to do for someone else JUST because we LOVE them!
Recently, I made some banana bread. My husband brought home a couple of bananas he had at work that were getting too ripe. He mentioned how nice banana bread sounded. So I set about making a loaf….now I don't like nuts in my breads or cookies…my husband does. I will be honest and say that I usually don't put nuts in things that I bake. But, as I looked at the ingredient list and was just about to skip over the walnuts….I thought about how much my husband would love to bite into a piece of banana bread that had nuts in it…and I dumped them into the batter!
These aren't mountain moving examples….you probably have much better examples. I guess the point of this post is that these small things can really keep a marriage going. Life is busy, marriage is hard…we don't always take the time to focus on our marriages like we should….but by putting our love in action a little more often…we are sending our spouse a big signal. We are saying that they are still the one we want to spend our life with! We are saying that they are worth a little sacrifice!
I would love to hear how you put your love in action in your marriage!
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I am also not the most loving wife ever. It is one of those areas I definitely need to work on.
It is hard for me…I guess I am getting pulled in so many directions!
I love this! Small but simple things make such a big difference in our relationships. For me- I am not the best housekeeper in the world. Definitely not. My husband loves things neat and tidy. So I make an effort to really clean up well by the time he comes home from work because I know it brings him more peace to be in a tidy home. It works- most of the time 🙂
Thanks for sharing Valerie!
Oh wow, it’s truly a constant effort. That being said, because we are dedicated to each other we enjoy the simple things really, every moment counts!
So true!
I really really love this. My husband and I are not big Valentine’s Day celebrators, mainly because we actually do believe in that whole thing about showing our love for each other every day of the year. My husband is an incredibly thoughtful person who always goes out of his way to make my life a little bit easier: starts my car when it’s cold out, takes over child-duty when he gets home so I can make dinner/write/detox from the day, fills my glass of water up when he sees it’s empty, charges my phone when it’s getting low. Like you said, nothing earth-shattering, but it means the world to me 🙂 Happy to see a positive post about marriage and love!
Sounds like your husband is a wonderful man! It really is the little things!!
This is something I am not good at. I know what my husband likes but it’s hard for me to express my love. After having our daughter it has gotten worse because we do nothing just the two of us. No date nights or anything.
It does get harder when kids come into the picture…they take up so much of our time and energy! I would encourage you to really try for some alone time together! A date night…even if it is just the two of you going to the grocery store..can make all the difference!
Marriage is hard work. Good thing we love them!
That is seriously adorable that you put nuts in and do not like them! 🙂 it’s weird how the little things can make the biggest difference!! 🙂
I have a wonderful experience as a wife and I am so in love with my Hubby, thanks for your honest post. Marriage is commitment which must be fulfill by both person in honest, loving and friendly way.
Those little moments are the ones that shine the brightest. I’m most impressed and humbled by my husband electing to handle a chore for me that I know he hates, without thinking about it.
Awww, I love your examples!! So sweet! ♡
It’s so easy to ignore the small things, especially when you have kids. But the small things really do make a difference. This is a good reminder for me. 🙂
Hun,
Love really is Christmas music and nuts. I’m still not a fan of the music, but I’m nuts about you! Always have been, always will be. I’d do it all over again.
Loving you ALWAYS,
me
Aww…thanks for commenting honey!!! I LOVE YOU! Thanks for reading! 🙂